Remember when you were growing up and your parents would always tell you that “no means no”? Well, funny how you grow up and adults these days don’t seem to understand the concept of “no“. Seriously!! People get butthurt AF! This is the Power of No. I mean I get it, no one likes being rejected, but you know what? REJECTION IS A PART OF LIFE BOYS AND GIRLS!!! Deal with it.
Okay, but on the real real, I’m a people pleaser. Like I will do anything to keep other people happy, which more often than not has ended up biting me in the ass. But hey, that’s life. I am the QUEEN of hyperextending myself and overcommitting to plans, only to leave myself feeling exhausted and rundown. I just have a hard time telling people “no” (which people know and take advantage of).
Do you relate to this at all? KEEP READING!!!
But then lately, it has finally clicked: is it worth it for me be miserable at the cost of other people’s happiness? NO IT IS NOT! It’s not a good feeling to get constantly walked over because you’re too worried you’re going to upset someone. Ask yourself: will committing to this benefit me or will it detract from my happiness? If you answered the latter, you should definitely say no.
Some people have given a negative connotation to the word “no“, but this isn’t how it should be viewed at all. Saying “no” is simply a way of drawing a line in the sand and creating barriers between yourself and others. It’s acknowledging that you value yourself and hold dear to your values and principles in life. It’s showing others that you appreciate the relationship, but also are mature enough to not let it govern your life. Saying “no” does not make you a bad person!!!
Even Psychology Today says:
“Wielded wisely, No is an instrument of integrity and a shield against exploitation. It often takes courage to say. It is hard to receive. But setting limits sets us free.”
After all, it’s so much better to not lie to yourself AND to others about how you truly feel. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY LADIES AND GENTS! You will be SO much happier, TRUST!
Also, people get way less upset if you say “no” from the very beginning versus saying “yes” and then later going back on your word. I mean honestly, who likes getting bailed on? NOT ME!!!
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